“There is always a little sadness about packing. I guess you wonder if where you are going is as good as where you have been.” –Richard Proenneke
There are a lot of things that make a move and change of address inevitable. This can either be impelled by a change of job or prompted by a good real estate offer. But this does not mitigate the difficulty of moving regardless of the reason for doing so.
Changing addresses and moving to new homes can be rather difficult especially when you have established a foundation in your existing neighborhood, forged memories with the moments you have experienced and cultivated relationships with your neighbors. However, adults can relatively cope with the move by acclimatizing well into their new neighborhood. But kids may or may not be as enthusiastic or even receptive to the move as their parents would be. Kids old enough to have established friends on their own would feel helpless to their parents’ decision and feel like they are in a situation they can hardly control. In the event of the move, these kids would feel like they have no voice regarding the move and may sulk or at worst, resent their parents. Make your prospective move whether it may be in a townhouse in Manila or a skyrise condominium such as serendra fort Bonifacio easier on your kids by utilizing the tips below during your move.
After the move, your first thought may be to unpack the multitude of boxes that are filled with items waiting to be settled into your new home as these may take more than just a few hours. But remember to put your children at the forefront, help them process and sort out their feelings regarding this big change in their lives. Be receptive to the cues they give out and set aside your unpacking for a while. Sit down with them and talk.
ENGAGE IN FAMILIAR ROUTINES
Children thrive in the familiar. Make the move an easy transition for them to cope with by engaging in routines they are already familiar to as they need to lean on the things that are still the same. Read their favorites, maintain their consistent bedtime rituals, sit down together to enjoy a family mean, play their favorite games—whatever it is, make sure that you maintain some of the old things they enjoy so as the change not to be so drastic.
GIVE THEM TIME TO ADJUST
Your new home is virtually an alien dwelling to your kids who are yet to make memories of their own in the house. It has new sounds and smells and it would take them before your children can adjust to these. So, instead of rushing for them to accept their new home, point out some of the things that may get them excited such as the neighborhood pool, the basketball court in the neighborhood park. However, it is just as important to let them know that there are things that may not be the same such as the new home having a relatively small backyard than your previous one, etc.
TELL YOUR CHILDREN IT IS PERFECTLY OKAY TO SHED TEARS
Your kids may be excited about their new home, but sad at the prospect of moving and leaving friends behind. Encourage them to talk about these and while they do genuinely listen to them. Capitalize on their excitement by letting them know of all the great things that come with their new home in contrast to the old one. Encourage tears if that is what is needed.
INVOLVE THEM IN MAKING THE HOUSE INTO A HOME
Make the move easier on your kids by involving them in the moving process as this will make them feel included instead of left out. Let them help and assist you with simple tasks such as unpacking some of the books or organizing the things already unpacked. It gives them a sense of duty and fulfillment which would give them a sense of connection to their new environment.